I like you... JUST as you are

Look, I know most of the time we're just ranting raving bitches who make you either smile or roll your eyes. That's fine. We can live with that but we have to address something that has us really really worried. I'm addressing the endless posts being pasted all over the net by little girls who are under the belief that one has to either suppress, change or manipulate the real you in order for this great boy to love you.

I know we talk and act younger than what we are, we carry a young spirit, but we're actually not young at all. So when we say that we're grown up, please just take our word for it.

I think that the last thing the writers wanted to convey in ANY of their storylines was that a woman needs to change her inherent personality in order to make herself desirable or be able to FIT with a man she believes to be great.

Believing in this, in any form or way, is a regression of what your mothers, grandmothers, aunts, etc have fought for generations past. You SHOULD NOT have to change who you are, your nature because a boy or a guy believes it's not your 'best side'. The concept of it is so very medieval and antiquated that I'm BAFFLED that some of you really believe this, really truly believe that.

It's not even about who Blair should be with, it's about how you view yourself and your current or future relationships. Love accepts and embraces, it does not modify or judges (yes, we mean you Dan - your judging will win you a slap from me). It doesn't. And you may not understand this now because I fear that a lot of you are still shaping your personalities but as you grow older and you grow into the person you will be you do not bend down, give into someone just because you're a bit rough around the edges.

THAT is what the Gossip Girl writers are trying to show you. You HAVE to see this or you will eventually fall prey to a bad relationship. I hate to think that ANYONE believes that not being who you are is a good thing. You know what happens when you suppress the real you, the person you have to keep in check? You become a miserable person and one day, if you're lucky, you will snap and that is what we call mid-life crisis. Years and years of suppression. Dont be like this, dont think like this, and PLEASE dont believe in this. I rather you believe that Blair should be alone than to be with someone who believes it's a good thing you've changed your inherent traits.

And sex in relationships, which SO many of you believe to be a bad thing - another lesson. An active sex life is the key to a healthy relationship. There is an inherent bonding that comes from sleeping with your lover on a very frequent basis. Sex, as an adult (because I fear many of you are really just young), is a GREAT thing. When you find someone who stimulates you, passionately appreciates you and loves you it's a MAJESTIC thing to be going at it all the time. Trust me, the best relationships have a VERY healthy sex life. Talking is needed, sweetness is had but becoming sexually aware of your partner is SUCH a wonderful feeling. And not loosing that, having it year after year is a rare gift so please do not view it as such.

End of mature rant. We will be back with wankings! ;)